Who are you talking to?

I have been completing a very interesting exercise with myself lately about what sort of conversations do I hold and who am I talking too.

Each day for a week I have written down a list of people I have spoken to, what the conversation was about (positive or negative) and was the conversation going to assist me to move closer or further away from my goals.

I became very enlightened that I had a pattern with some people in my network to look at what was not working in my world. This was not a positive conversation or really even for the purpose of working through a challenge to move forward. So I made a decision and have changed what I talk about, my conversations support my goals.

“Your personal income is directly proportionate to the quality and the level of desire of the people you choose to spend your time working with.”

I believe the statement above to be true. From my experience you need to surround yourself by people that expect the best of you so that you can thrive, not pull you down. The more positive and on purpose people you can be around the better, it will rub off you will start to model their behavior and attitude.

You are in control of who you speak to and certainly what you talk about. If you do not have a positive group of people around you then you will need to seek out people who are. Think about what you want to achieve and seek out a group of people to talk to. Or seek out a mentor. A mentor is a fabulous tool, someone who has walked the path before you and achieved what you desire. I am very fortunate to mentor people daily and also to have a fabulous mentor that has walked the path I desire.

So look at the quality of the people around you, seek out a mentor so you “can stand on the shoulder of those who have gone before you”. Being a mentor once you have achieved your goals is also one of the most rewarding roles there are.

When there is no other option but to WIN.

I have watched my daughter master the art of walking over the recent months. I noticed her focus and the percentage of her time that she spends on achieving this goal. At times it would appear to be the only thing in her existence besides her basic survival needs. It is that important to her to walk that she falls and gets up again over and over again throughout a day.

She is not discouraged by falling, never self doubts nor has negative talk about the fall. She barley even focuses on falling, she is more focussed on getting up and walking. There is only one outcome for her and that is to win at walking. And she did!

We could learn so much from her guidance in regards to achieving our desires and goals. Most of us give up long before the attainment of our goals, we then justify to ourselves that this goal was not really that important. However it had to be at some point as it came from a desire within. We all face obstacles and fall along the way to obtaining any goal, in particular if is something we have not done before or if it is a goal much bigger than ourselves. Are you willing to keep getting up again and re focus?

Do you believe that you will win? If you are struggling to believe that you can win at creating your goal, look back at any unfinished goals. Have you installed a pattern of giving up on yourself in the past; particularly when things have got challenging or did you seek out support, guidance and people that have gone down that path before?

My daughter walked because she was always going to, there was no other option in her mind, it was not a matter of how long is this going to take, or will I. It was only a matter of when. Are your goals only a matter of when?

I also watched her watch us, she had great mentors to show her the way and modelled that behaviour. Who is in your circle that has walked the path you wish to? If you have mentors are you watching and using their knowledge or if you do not have mentors are you seeking them out.

Be like a child, play to win, let that burning desire keep being your fuel. Make winning your exclusive right and keep going UNTIL.