Are you surviving or thriving?

I have been reading a book called “Poke the Box” by Seth Godin, it is a fascinating read about the changes in today’s society. How we have moved out of the industrial age and what it really takes to survive and thrive in the world today. No longer is it enough to sit idle and wait to be told what to do, no longer is it enough to just meander through life. You may survive in life by doing that but will be far from thriving.

So what does it take to thrive? What is the difference?

The difference between the two is what you choose to do with your life, our role is no longer to fit in and follow the status quo. We are here to make a difference in any way shape or form we can, and we all can!

Do you make a difference or are you just wandering along unaware that you actually have the power to do that, you have the power to make a difference.

I am sure you have had similar times to me, where you have great ideas about starting something, making a difference. But that is all they stay as, ideas in your mind. They are really of no use in there unless you do something with them. Ideas are not going to make a difference until they are implemented and started. It only takes one small step to start.

There are so many reasons we do not start, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of breaking the rules, I do not know how etc etc etc. The list really goes on. How do you think we actually learn, we learn through attempting, through doing? If we fail that is ok, we know we started and we know we can learn something, modify our attempt and go again.

If the goal is important enough to you why would you give up on it? Sometimes we can go into analysis paralysis where we look at every angle, every piece of advice, ask all the possible questions we can. It is important to do your due diligence, but at the end of the day the true learning is in the starting and doing. We cannot truly learn how to succeed in what we want by just talking to people, we actually have to work it out for ourselves.

We have to be willing to fail. So go out and start something, even if it is small. Answer the phone differently; help someone you see in need. Anything, just start to get into the habit of starting, and enjoy the results.

How do you get Motivated?

So what motivates someone, and how do we actually get motivated. We can all get excited by something, but that does not always last. Motivation needs to be sustainable, so what is motivation and how do we get it?

The basic definition of motivation is “the general desire or willingness of someone to do something”. This is a great basic definition that tells us that motivation is about being in motion, taking action and having a motive or purpose.

So some of the fundamental parts are to know what you actually want and also how to get it. As individuals we tend to be more motivated to take the action steps required for success if we know how to obtain success. If we actually have the rules of life or an organization it is easier to follow a system to success. We then also have a measure for our success. If we are unclear in what we want and are also unclear in how to get it, we often just get lack of clarity and lack of results.

If we think about it in simple terms, a child that has no boundaries or routine can often have problems with self esteem and confidence as they are unclear on how to succeed in their world.

Another aspect of motivation is a person’s ability to actually experience and face life or a situation. If a person feels they are unable to deal with problems or a task they can often end up procrastinating or avoiding it all together. That problem does not go away and often becomes more of a problem to be dealt with later. If we can skill ourselves and be willing to learn how to deal with situation and tasks in the moment our feeling of accomplishment and empowerment increase. As a result our motivation increases.

These are just a few basic components that influence motivation. So if you are looking to be more motivated or have sustained motivation you will need to face life and it’s issues and overcome them. Also understand what you want, why you want it and have a plan or system in place for how to achieve it so you can actually measure your success.