Are you just making life hard for the sake of it?

I was at the gym for training today and was fascinated by what I was observing. There are people that train with ease and flow and there are people that train and make the whole experience look difficult and hard.

I train in Olympic weightlifting. This is a sport that is challenging at the best of times and in general goes against one’s natural instinct. It is not often that we throw a very heavy bar above our head and the jump underneath it whilst it is crashing down on us; all in an orderly and speedy fashion so we can complete a successful lift and not get crushed. It kind of goes against the basics of survival.

So bearing all that in mind, training can be made a whole lot harder if all you do is struggle against the bar and the weights and fight the lift. Surprisingly the more you stay relaxed, and flow at speed with the lift the lighter and easier it is. I have had session where 35 kilograms has felt heavier than 75 kilograms and for no other reason that I made 75 easy and was relaxed about it, rather than fought the lift.

When you make things so hard that you squeeze the enjoyment out of it, then you need to consider why you are doing it. Are you just looking for reasons to beat yourself up and make yourself feel bad for not succeeding?

Now do not get me wrong, I train hard and I am very committed and determined in my training. But I choose not to make it hard and there is a very big difference. To me it is just like doing what it takes to succeed but not resisting the experience or the growth that comes with it as a result.

I believe that how you do one thing can often reflect in how you do other things. So I wonder how the ladies I train with are resisting life, how are they making things harder than they need to be and look for the struggle rather than do what needs to be done in a relaxed way, grow, let go and enjoy the process.

In training and in life there are always going to be things that challenge us, that we need to dig deep within ourselves to achieve. But it is a choice to make it hard and a fight against the goal or to make it a journey and an experience.

You choose!

Are you in or are you out?

I was at the gym today and watching a few others train. The gym I go to is quite small, there are no mirrors and people make as much noise as they like, sweat is part of the criteria to attend. People turn up to get results. We are not talking your standard gym where people turn up to look good.

Most people I train around understand you have to train to improve. However even though they know that they have to put in the work to get the result, it does not always mean they approach the bar with that attitude. I participate in the sport of weightlifting which takes a strong mindset, skill and flexibility.

In the sport of weightlifting you basically throw a heavy bar above your head and jump underneath it and catch the bar before it falls on your head. This is going against your natural survival instincts. So you have to be fully committed. Lack of commitment, hesitation, and doubt or basically anything less than giving it 100%, results in one of two things, you either get injured or you miss.

I have noticed that some people can commit 100% all of the time, some people can only commit 100% when all the duck are lined up and it is easy, when it gets challenging they bow out and miss. So what does this have to do with life?

What I know is that if you do something in one place in your life it is likely you do it in several others. For example if you bow out or give up when the going gets tough in a challenge at the gym you will probably be doing it in the real world outside the gym.

Commitment is not about keeping going when it is easy. Commitment is about keeping going no matter what, until you have finished the job and achieved the goal.

Are you ready to commit?

When you do you can have everything you actually want.