Do you remember your first time?

Today I was reminded about the firsts in life. We took jasmine to get her very first haircut. This was a fascinating process as she is two years old, loves brushing her hair and wearing her hair up. We took her to a wonderful children’s hairdresser, only for children.

She loved all the toys and was happy to get up in the chair all by herself. She was so good right up until they went to cut her fringe. Then she was not so ok with the process.

With comforting and reassurance she finished her haircut.
This haircut process made me think about the first time we do something we are completely unfamiliar with, it can be a little daunting or scary. Sometimes we can resist the process even though the outcome may be exactly what we want.

So what gets us through these times? One of the key points that can get us through is having a support team around you or wonderful mentors.

Do you have a great team to support you, do you have a mentor?

We support our little girl with love and encouragement every day. We choose to surround ourselves by people that support us to live a better and more successful life, to be even more of who we are.

You have the choice of surrounding yourself with a supportive environment or not, if you really want to flourish you may need to review who is in your world. Expect the best from yourself and surround yourself with the best that will expect the best from you and support you all the way.

Are you asking for what you want?

Do you ask for what you want? As I have been watching my daughter (Jasmine) grow up I am humbled and grateful to be so involved in the process, it truly is beautiful. Children really do have all the wisdom to re-teach us some essential life lessons that we may have lost along the way.

There are three things I notice with her:

  1. She keeps asking for what she wants until she gets it
  2. She is super clear on what she wants.
  3. Her desire and requests come from a knowing that she can get what she wants, no questions. In fact it appears that not getting it; doesn’t even enter into her mind. (no lack mentality here).

These three life lessons are probably some of the key lessons that one could learn in life. Ask for what you want and keep asking. Most people ask once, if that and give up. A lot of people ask, then realise they do not have what they want, think they then cannot have it, and lose belief and hope that they can change the situation.

When you ask for what you want you are at the beginning of the process, the first step of many steps to manifestation of what you want. Ask for what you want, be very clear on what that is. Ask from a place of wanting rather than from a place of not having. Allow yourself to dream again. Be a child again and ask with that level of freedom.

You may have to ask for what you want more than once. Your conversations and thoughts then need to move in alignment with what you want. Everything needs to become about what you want. When Jasmine knows what she wants that is her exclusive focus. It is all she talks about. We can learn a lot from this. She never talks about not having it, how hard it is to get it or that she may not get it.

Ask for what you want and then monitor what you talk about it, hold yourself accountable to this. Ask yourself in regards to what you want – what does it look like, what does it feel, and who do you need to be to already have it. If I already have it, what would I be doing, saying, feeling and how would I be acting. What actions would I take now if I was already there?

If you were to be childlike again and use that level of exclusive focus what sort of results would you produce. Imagine how much fun life would be.

When there is no other option but to WIN.

I have watched my daughter master the art of walking over the recent months. I noticed her focus and the percentage of her time that she spends on achieving this goal. At times it would appear to be the only thing in her existence besides her basic survival needs. It is that important to her to walk that she falls and gets up again over and over again throughout a day.

She is not discouraged by falling, never self doubts nor has negative talk about the fall. She barley even focuses on falling, she is more focussed on getting up and walking. There is only one outcome for her and that is to win at walking. And she did!

We could learn so much from her guidance in regards to achieving our desires and goals. Most of us give up long before the attainment of our goals, we then justify to ourselves that this goal was not really that important. However it had to be at some point as it came from a desire within. We all face obstacles and fall along the way to obtaining any goal, in particular if is something we have not done before or if it is a goal much bigger than ourselves. Are you willing to keep getting up again and re focus?

Do you believe that you will win? If you are struggling to believe that you can win at creating your goal, look back at any unfinished goals. Have you installed a pattern of giving up on yourself in the past; particularly when things have got challenging or did you seek out support, guidance and people that have gone down that path before?

My daughter walked because she was always going to, there was no other option in her mind, it was not a matter of how long is this going to take, or will I. It was only a matter of when. Are your goals only a matter of when?

I also watched her watch us, she had great mentors to show her the way and modelled that behaviour. Who is in your circle that has walked the path you wish to? If you have mentors are you watching and using their knowledge or if you do not have mentors are you seeking them out.

Be like a child, play to win, let that burning desire keep being your fuel. Make winning your exclusive right and keep going UNTIL.