Change is the only constant!

I have been completing an exercise recently about change. The idea was to monitor how I am with change. A note about this is that I actually avoided doing this exercise for months because I thought I already know I am not great with change, I like security and stability. At least that is what I thought anyway, I did not want to do the exercise to prove to myself I was terrible at change, why would I want to give myself reasons to not feel good.

What I learnt over time is that the things I want to avoid are often the very things I need to do, to move forward in life and get the lessons I need for the time.

So I started to monitor how I am when a change occurs in my life. I noticed that change I choose, woo hoo I am great with it. Unexpected change that I did not know was going to happen or choose, not so good.

The interesting thing for me was that although I would often get frustrated, get over whelmed or annoyed with what was happening, I could still see the light to move forward. I suddenly moved through the change so much easier.

What I have learned is if we live and participate in life there will be expected and unexpected change, the more we live the more we experience this. This is a constant. We have a choice to react or respond to the change. Sometimes when we feel that we are threatened or our outcome or goals may not be achieved due to this change we can react. That is ok, the choice there after is where to from there. Do you sit in the problem throwing your toys enrolling others into the problem or do you look for a way out and a way forward, take responsibility. Most often the change is for a perfect reason, because what you learn from that change is exactly what you need to learn in your life in that moment.

Thank you change.

Is change your friend or your foe?

When you think of the word CHANGE, how does it make you feel?

How does your body feel, what do you say to yourself?

Change is a constant part of life. There really is no way of avoiding this reality. The dictionary defines change as a transformation, from one form to another, to make different. These definitions seem to have no negative reference; it certainly does not say change is your foe.

When I used to think of change I would get anxious, I would feel like my breath had been taken away. I could feel my shoulders and neck get tight and I would get cranky at my husband. I really was not much fun to be around.

If the change was something I choose in my life I was ok, excited and ready for the up and coming result. If the change was something that I did not know about, I was not so good.

How do you cope with change you did not know was going to occur? This can turn up in the most simple of ways. For example: you can have set the path you want to travel to work on; and find out that a section of the roads are shut ; and you are now going to have to go a way you had not planned on. Or it could be that you have a child who was set on 2 sleeps per day and you had a routine in those times and now they will only sleep once.

What would happen if you embraced the change? What would you have to do to make this change enjoyable or for change to be your friend?

The more one resists change the harder the process usually becomes.

I sat down with myself and asked what it would take for me to enjoy change, for change to be my friend. The answer I came up with was to look at change as an adventure. All of a sudden change became light and exciting. There is an adventure to be had on change and a new destination to be reached. So now when change is upon me, I am excited.

How can you make change your friend? What would you have to change in your thinking to embrace change?