Who are you talking to?

I have been completing a very interesting exercise with myself lately about what sort of conversations do I hold and who am I talking too.

Each day for a week I have written down a list of people I have spoken to, what the conversation was about (positive or negative) and was the conversation going to assist me to move closer or further away from my goals.

I became very enlightened that I had a pattern with some people in my network to look at what was not working in my world. This was not a positive conversation or really even for the purpose of working through a challenge to move forward. So I made a decision and have changed what I talk about, my conversations support my goals.

“Your personal income is directly proportionate to the quality and the level of desire of the people you choose to spend your time working with.”

I believe the statement above to be true. From my experience you need to surround yourself by people that expect the best of you so that you can thrive, not pull you down. The more positive and on purpose people you can be around the better, it will rub off you will start to model their behavior and attitude.

You are in control of who you speak to and certainly what you talk about. If you do not have a positive group of people around you then you will need to seek out people who are. Think about what you want to achieve and seek out a group of people to talk to. Or seek out a mentor. A mentor is a fabulous tool, someone who has walked the path before you and achieved what you desire. I am very fortunate to mentor people daily and also to have a fabulous mentor that has walked the path I desire.

So look at the quality of the people around you, seek out a mentor so you “can stand on the shoulder of those who have gone before you”. Being a mentor once you have achieved your goals is also one of the most rewarding roles there are.

Do you dare to dream?

When was the last time that you allowed yourself to think of what you wanted? What you really wanted. Like you did as a child, you wanted a pony, to become an astronaut or to fly a plane. There was no limit to the dreams and aspirations you held as a child.

Somewhere we stopped dreaming, we stopped allowing ourselves to think of the possibilities or to think we maybe could just have what we wanted.

The truth is you can have whatever you want. It is a choice to create the life you want to lead and to fulfill your dreams. First you need to start dreaming again and allow yourself the idea of possibility.

Once you start dreaming of the possible or even impossible that is when the magic begins. It is then that you have the opportunity to create your dream and turn it into a reality.

“If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it.” William Arthur Ward

This is so true if your mind can conceive the idea in the first place this makes it a possibility. Once you have dreamt it the next step is to decide you want it and follow through with the necessary level of action required to bring it into you world, to make it happen.

There is one thing to be aware of when you start dreaming and creating what you want. Watch out for the “dream stealers” . What are dream stealers?

Dream stealers are the thoughts that you have in your own mind that stop you from moving forward. These are the thoughts that you have decided are real for yourself. Things you have heard in your life from others around you. For example – You are not special, you cannot manage money, you are never going to have what you really want. The list goes on and on.

If you choose to buy into these thoughts and beliefs the dream stealers are at action. The power goes to them, not to you. If you choose to hold your own power, your own vision then you will move forward and create what you desire. Choose for yourself, hold your dreams in you vision. You are worth it and you can do it. Go for it.

Are you surviving or thriving?

I have been reading a book called “Poke the Box” by Seth Godin, it is a fascinating read about the changes in today’s society. How we have moved out of the industrial age and what it really takes to survive and thrive in the world today. No longer is it enough to sit idle and wait to be told what to do, no longer is it enough to just meander through life. You may survive in life by doing that but will be far from thriving.

So what does it take to thrive? What is the difference?

The difference between the two is what you choose to do with your life, our role is no longer to fit in and follow the status quo. We are here to make a difference in any way shape or form we can, and we all can!

Do you make a difference or are you just wandering along unaware that you actually have the power to do that, you have the power to make a difference.

I am sure you have had similar times to me, where you have great ideas about starting something, making a difference. But that is all they stay as, ideas in your mind. They are really of no use in there unless you do something with them. Ideas are not going to make a difference until they are implemented and started. It only takes one small step to start.

There are so many reasons we do not start, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of breaking the rules, I do not know how etc etc etc. The list really goes on. How do you think we actually learn, we learn through attempting, through doing? If we fail that is ok, we know we started and we know we can learn something, modify our attempt and go again.

If the goal is important enough to you why would you give up on it? Sometimes we can go into analysis paralysis where we look at every angle, every piece of advice, ask all the possible questions we can. It is important to do your due diligence, but at the end of the day the true learning is in the starting and doing. We cannot truly learn how to succeed in what we want by just talking to people, we actually have to work it out for ourselves.

We have to be willing to fail. So go out and start something, even if it is small. Answer the phone differently; help someone you see in need. Anything, just start to get into the habit of starting, and enjoy the results.