Are you asking for what you want?

Do you ask for what you want? As I have been watching my daughter (Jasmine) grow up I am humbled and grateful to be so involved in the process, it truly is beautiful. Children really do have all the wisdom to re-teach us some essential life lessons that we may have lost along the way.

There are three things I notice with her:

  1. She keeps asking for what she wants until she gets it
  2. She is super clear on what she wants.
  3. Her desire and requests come from a knowing that she can get what she wants, no questions. In fact it appears that not getting it; doesn’t even enter into her mind. (no lack mentality here).

These three life lessons are probably some of the key lessons that one could learn in life. Ask for what you want and keep asking. Most people ask once, if that and give up. A lot of people ask, then realise they do not have what they want, think they then cannot have it, and lose belief and hope that they can change the situation.

When you ask for what you want you are at the beginning of the process, the first step of many steps to manifestation of what you want. Ask for what you want, be very clear on what that is. Ask from a place of wanting rather than from a place of not having. Allow yourself to dream again. Be a child again and ask with that level of freedom.

You may have to ask for what you want more than once. Your conversations and thoughts then need to move in alignment with what you want. Everything needs to become about what you want. When Jasmine knows what she wants that is her exclusive focus. It is all she talks about. We can learn a lot from this. She never talks about not having it, how hard it is to get it or that she may not get it.

Ask for what you want and then monitor what you talk about it, hold yourself accountable to this. Ask yourself in regards to what you want – what does it look like, what does it feel, and who do you need to be to already have it. If I already have it, what would I be doing, saying, feeling and how would I be acting. What actions would I take now if I was already there?

If you were to be childlike again and use that level of exclusive focus what sort of results would you produce. Imagine how much fun life would be.

Create freedom with Gratitude Today

I have found that in the past I used to spend a lot of time trying and striving to reach my goals. I would put in all the effort required, take all the action required and still not be getting the results. This became a very demoralising process and often resulted in me changing paths or losing self belief.

It has only been since I have started my journey of success education and personal development that I was missing one key component to success. That component was gratitude. I was spending more time focussing on what I did not want or did not have that focussing on what I had to be grateful for. When I started to look for everything I was grateful for in my life and my world, life began to change.

It was like all of the hard and struggle had gone. I went from loathing getting up in the morning to enjoying my day. This was a remarkable process. The most interesting thing was that what I saw happen from there is all of a sudden I was achieving the results I previously was trying so hard to get to and never making.

The Oxford dictionary defines gratitude as: “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness”.

To give thanks for your life, invites more thanks into your life. When you are not in gratitude your focus is most often on what is going wrong with a situation or thing. In gratitude you find the learning in any situation and freely move on. Words such as grudge and resentment pass from you, words like love, appreciate and fun enter into your life.

Gratitude can give you a true sense of freedom to create the life you desire. Are you willing to be grateful today for what you have right now and all that is coming your way?

Who is steering your ship?

We can go through life questioning and asking why we have or have not been getting the results we desire. One of the best things we can do for ourselves is to look at our personal responsibility. What are we or are we not doing that has got us to this point? What are we or are we not thinking that has continued to keep us getting the same results?

There is a definition of insanity and that is “keep doing the same thing you have always been doing and expect to get a different result”. In order to get a different result we need to change what we are doing and thinking. The most effective way to do this is to look at who we are being. Ask yourself this question,” How would the person I want to be do what I am about to do?”

Another significant part of responsibility is personal accountability. The buck stops and starts with us as individuals. If we keep expecting others to keep us accountable are we also expecting them to produce the results for us as well. Are you really willing to hand over your destiny to someone else?

If you are struggling with personal accountability it is time to look at your motivating why. Why are you doing what you are doing, why do you want to achieve goal XY and Z. No one else can be your guru, only you can. No one else can control you or get your results for you. When you are willing to get clear on what you want and why you want it and become your own personal accountability partner your results will change.

It is time to stop expecting results outside of you and start looking inside for change. That is where all the answers are. Take the time to clarify your why and set yourself up a step by step plan. Reward yourself daily for sticking to your plan. Be ok with delayed gratification. Make any necessary corrections.
It’s now your time to become Self Reliant.